As difficult, scary, depressing, and stressful as this has all been, one does start to develop a macabre sense of humor. It helped during all the notification if I could get people laugh along with me.
It started the day we found out. We are planning a trip to Vegas in a couple of weeks. On the way home late last Friday after getting the final diagnosis, amidst tears and shock, Michael says, "Maybe we should just get married while we're in Vegas". I replied with, "That has got to be the worst proposal any woman could ever get", and we both started laughing hysterically. It's only gone downhill from there.
Now this is not appropriate at all times. But hopefully we will all learn to know those times. One sister said we might as well have some wine and give my liver a run for it's money (not a direct quote) and then asked in horror if that that was too inappropriate. I let her know that we were way beyond that. She was relieved to know what the boundaries were.
The second marriage-related joke came last Sunday when we decided to get wedding rings. Michael asked if maybe he could get mine on consignment, meaning could he get his money back later. Then the sales clerk asked if we wanted the lifetime protection plan. It was all we could do to not bust a gut.
Some people may think this is all weird and in bad taste, and perhaps it is. But laughter is a good thing. It is healing, it brings people together, and it just feels good.
Laugh as much as you can.
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I like the "sick" sense of humor double entendre, Jane
Oh, I get it. It was completely unintentional, but I like it. jr
Hi Michael and Jane-
You guys have smarter kids than the Brady bunch on TV.
Congratulations on you upcoming wedding!!!!
Will the kids be part of the wedding ceremony? Are they practicing their howling and woo woo's for "Here comes the Bride"???
Congratulations on YOUR Wedding!!!
Very Happy for you all!
The kids will not be in/at the wedding ceremony... I thought about Kohlbi being the best man-dog, but he would eat the ring, and then pee on all the flower arangements.. also during the reception, it may not be that attractive to people eating when he suckles the ears of the brides/dog-maid germen short-hair pointer ( Nikki )
and if we let the cats loose.. Ugggg...
Also chocolate cake isn't good for dogs or cats..
Personally, I like the chaos that all this would bring, but we are trying to be upbeat here.. :-P
mike
p.s. Did I mention that I love Jane and am very happy for her to be my blushing bride?
Be forewarned: the "sick sense of humor" strikes when you least expect it.
While making arrangements following my husband's death, it was all I could do not to laugh when I saw the ash tray at the crematorium. All I could think was, "Oh look, free samples!!!"
It must be our body's defense system. Laugh away.
J'aime et j'espere. toj
toj - I knew if anyone could appreciate it, it would be you. jr
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